As my monthly New Moon box, Nova Luna, has grown, I’ve gotten more and more questions about New Moon Intentions, and more specifically, how to pick one. I already have a blog post about my New Moon Intention ritual, but I thought I’d write a post about the deeper nuances between a intention versus a goal for the New Moon to help you when you’re trying to decide on your intention.
Key #1: Specific Intentions
Intentions (and when I say Intentions here and going forward, I’m referring to New Moon Intentions) tend to work best when they are feeling based and specific. Being able to feel your Intention with all of your senses is, in my belief, the key to manifestation. Being able to see what it looks like in your mind’s eye, and incorporate any textures, smells, specific colors, or sounds with it. The more specific you can get the better. For example, it’s not just a car you want, it’s a 1972 Corvette Convertible in Sunfire Yellow with a black leather interior, white line tires, turbo hydra-matic automatic transmission and AM/FM radio stereo.
For another example, watch below for how specific Ralphie is in ‘A Christmas Story’ with what he wants for Christmas: a Red Ryder Carbine Action 200-shot Range Model air rifle with a compass in the stock and “this thing which tells time.
Key #2: The difference between Intentions and Goals
Lots of folks think that intentions are goals, but I’m here to tell you that the two are very different. Remember, intentions are specific, but they are feeling based. Goals can definitely be specific, but they are usually number based.
Let’s break this down with something that a lot of folks start out with when beginning intention setting: gaining money.
They’ll set an intention such as ‘I want to make money this month’.
Some folks may go further and get specific by saying ‘I want to make $10,000 this month’.
But that is a goal and not an intention. There are no feelings involved.
An intention for that could be ‘I feel grounded and secure. I am receiving a steady flow of financial abundance this month’.
Let’s work through another one. A beginner might make an intention of ‘I want to lose 20 lbs’.
So how do we turn this goal into an intention? Thinking about what it would feel like to lose weight. How would your body feel? Your mind? What steps would you need to actively take to support that intention?
Your new intention might be ‘I feel my body in it’s perfect state as I intuitively nurture and strengthen it.’
Doesn’t that new intention just light you up and feel you with warmth and gladness? A good intention should!
Now, goals are great to go along with intentions, but in my experience, I’ve been pleasantly surprised when I made the intention more about the action feeling (releasing, deepening, feeling, awakening, attracting, connecting…) than the goal (gain $10,000, lose 20 lbs, sell X number of things).
Key #3: A note on Intention wording
An important thing to remember when going about your Intention setting, is that the New Moon is the time when the moon is growing in light. Because of that, you’ll want your New Moon intentions ideally to be about abundance: attracting, building, growing. If your intention is to release something, you’ll want to re-focus that releasing onto the positive feelings you’ll have once that thing is released. Or you’ll want to save that intention for the Full Moon - the time of releasing.
That’s why in my weight lose example above, the intention wasn’t about the act of loosing weight, it was about the feelings I had after already having that happened.
That leads to my next point. When you word intentions, they should be worded in the present tense. Don’t say ‘if’ or ‘when’ or ‘I will’.
Say ‘I am’.
That is how your intentions should be worded, as if they already happened. Seeing your intention in your mind’s eye, and speaking it out loud as if it has already happened is very powerful. It is a signal to the Universe. You’re saying ‘I’m here and I’m ready’.
Key #4: Picking Your Intention
Sometimes I hear from folks who say they are overwhelmed at what intention to pick.
Ask for whatever resonates. Sit quietly and say out loud all the intentions you’re thinking about working with. After you say each intention, take a few deep breaths and see how you feel. Does that intention weight you down or lighten your spirits? Do you feel excited, alive, vibrating with that intention? Does it feel heavy like a burden? Pay attention to those feelings and the one that resonates the most, the one that you can really feel in your body, vibrating in your cells with possibility, that’s the one you should focus on. It may be ‘big’ or ‘small’ - it doesn’t matter! The biggest trees grow out of the smallest seeds. What matters is how you feel about the intention - that’s where all the power is.
Key #5: Coming back to your Intention every day
Outside of being able to really feel your intention, the second most important thing for Intention setting is being able to come back to it each day. If you can come back to that intention day after day in meditation and feel that intention, see it in your mind’s eye and be excited about it each day, you’re golden. That’s why the feeling aspect of the worded Intention is so important. It’s a grounding rod to instantly get you back to that feeling state surrounding your Intention. It helps you infuse your body with those feelings and drop in. Just five minutes a day of dropping into how your intention feels, imagining every aspect of it in your mind and saying your Intention out loud will lead to profound work on your part.
And a final caveat
And as always when I talk about New Moon Intentions, I always like to point out even if you set an intention, imagine it beautifully and craft the wording so that it lights you up every time you say it, that’s not necessarily enough. What are you doing to help your Intention along? What work are you putting in? The Universe will only respond in kind. So if you’re setting an Intention without any work and wondering why you’re results aren’t quiet what you thought they’d be, take a look in the mirror.
Using my examples from above, if you’re looking for more financial abundance…. do you have a budget? Do you stick to it? Do you spend excessively or do you honor your flow of money? Is there something you should be doing/making/working on to create an avenue for money to flow?
If you’re looking to lose weight, how’s your diet? Do you exercise? How is your self-care? Do you treat your body with respect?
There’s always something you can do to help the Universe along and let it know that you’re in this and willing to show up and do the work.
Happy moon gazing!